I know, you’re probably thinking, WTH? Why would I CHOOSE to be stressed? Trust me, it’s not as weird as it sounds…and even if you are choosing to be stressed, the good news is you can totally hit delete on it.
I had been feeling stressed out and anxious for days because of the craziness I had ahead of me this week. My daughter was starting Driver’s Ed classes (which happen to be an hour away) and as part of that, we have to schedule driving and observing times with the instructor in addition to the 6 hours of class time. She has either softball practice or a game four days out of five, and she’s going to prom on Friday. There are accessories to choose, flowers to pick up, dress fittings to attend, and hair to be done…it’s a lot! If you’re a mom reading this, I know you feel me.
The first thought I had when I woke up this morning (before the panic had a chance to set in) was, I don’t WANT to be stressed. I want to enjoy helping Kaelin get ready for, and then seeing her off to prom. I want to savor my last several weeks of talking with her in the car as I drive her around to a million different activities before she gets her license and becomes a lot more independent. But as I laid in bed this morning running through the day’s activities in my head, I had to admit that on some level, I was choosing to be stressed out about all of it.
I had to ask myself, what was I actually stressed about? And what could I do about it?
It basically came down to me feeling overwhelmed simply because I had added more to my plate on top of what was already a little too much. And I realized there were three things I could do to overcome the overwhelm and reduce the stress:
- Cut myself some slack.
- ASK FOR HELP (yep, all caps on that one).
- Accept that no one’s going to die if some of the usual things don’t get done perfectly (or even at all) this week.
As women, it can be so hard to let go of the idea we should be able to do it all and exude this peaceful, serene energy that tells the world, I’ve got this, but the truth is, we don’t ‘got this.’ We can either try to make our to-do lists a mile long and drive ourselves crazy trying to tick off every last item, or we can let some things go and have some semblance of mental energy to not just get through the day, but actually enjoy it. Option two gets my vote.
Blessings, Love & Light,
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