Ditch Your New Year’s Resolutions And Goals

calendar-picThis time of year used to be my favorite. Yeah, the holidays were a great time for sure, but I saw the impending new year as an opportunity to right all of my wrongs and become an entirely new person. A better person. Someone who put her nose to the grindstone, and FINALLY chiseled the perfect body, 10-x’d her business, and attained spiritual enlightenment in a mere twelve months. I might not have even been able to achieve these things before, but I always thought, this year would be different.

I’m exaggerating here, but not by much. I used to start each new year under the assumption that there was something wrong with me, when it should have been obvious that there was something wrong with with the resolutions I was making. In my mind, I wasn’t achieving my goals because I didn’t deserve to–I wasn’t working hard enough. But the truth is, my goals were based in a mentality of fear and lack. They weren’t empowering, and they didn’t feel good. In fact, they just stressed me out!

Last year, I realized something had to give. The thought of putting in a ridiculous amount of hours to explode my business, and suffering through another crazy diet and exercise regime literally made me nauseous. And then, in a moment of instant clarity (thank you, Universe), I thought, just focus on how you want to FEEL. That changed everything!

I wanted to feel happy and energetic. I didn’t want to be anxious and stressed out all the time…I wanted to be more creative, and do the things I loved in my business. I wanted to have more fun.

So I kicked my typical resolutions to the curb and spent my time doing more of the things that made me feel the way I wanted to feel. When I started to veer down the path of crazy again, I’d check in with myself. I’d ask myself, is this going to bring me tension, or ease? And you know what? It worked!

What about your resolutions? Could they use a do over…or do you need to ditch them altogether? Do you feel energized when you think about them or do they bring you down? What are the feelings you want achieving those goals to give you? Focus on those. What things can you do feel the way you want to feel?

I’d love to know what your goals are and if reading this made you rethink things at all. Hit me up in the comments and tell me all about it! Happy New Year!

Blessings, Love, and Light,

Christy xo

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Is Self-Care All About Spa Days And Bubble Baths?

shutterstock_154165484I was talking to a new client the other day, trying to get a feel for what kind of self-care practices she might already have. As the conversation progressed, I could tell she was getting frustrated, and was almost in tears when she realized she had no idea what self-care even meant…”You mean, mani/pedis?” she asked…”Buying myself a gift?”

I understand the confusion that a lot of women have about self-care, and why many of us are mystified by what it means to make our own needs a priority.

I used to be confused about it too, and I thought self-care was all about massages and facials. While those things are fun, and can be deeply relaxing, (don’t get me wrong–I highly recommend doing those things for yourself from time to time) they’re not things that most of us can do on a regular basis. Nor do they cultivate a long-term sense of well being or give you a go-to tool to cope with the stresses of life.

Self-care is really about exploration, and finding things you can do to feel rejuvenated. It’s about checking in with yourself and figuring out what you NEED at any given moment.

I’ve experimented and tried lots of different ways to honor myself and take care of ME. What that looks like for me may not be what it looks like for you, but these examples might help you come up with some ideas if you’re feeling a little confused or uninspired when it comes to self-care:

1) Sleep is my #1 priority. I go to bed at about the same time every night, and don’t wake up to an alarm clock whenever possible. If I’m more tired than usual, and feel like I need a nap, I take one without guilt. I know that if I’m exhausted, I’m not going to be able to do anything to the best of my ability.

2) I meditate. Ironically, meditation used to stress me out! I felt like I couldn’t do it because I was never able to quiet my mind, and sitting still for even five minutes seemed like a complete waste of time. Once I learned transcendental meditation, I realized that having thoughts during meditation was normal, and I couldn’t believe how much calmer, happier, and less reactive I was when I did it. I had let go of the need to get it perfect, and just do it. I miss days here and there, but life runs a lot smoother when I make the time to fit it into my day.

3) I take the weekends completely off from work. This was a really difficult one to implement, and I had to let go of my misguided ideas of what it takes to be successful. I used to work every single day; I’d answer messages the moment they came in, I’d constantly check emails and social media so I wouldn’t miss anything, and was always trying to be a step ahead. But I had no down time, and my family suffered because there was always “one more thing’ I had to take care of. Now I don’t take clients or answer emails, and I hardly even post on SM on the weekends. I focus on my family, being home, and doing whatever I want. My stress level has improved dramatically.

I could go on and on with the changes I’ve made, but these are the big ones. Try them out, and explore some other practices like going for a walk outside, taking five minutes in between tasks to just sit and do nothing. See what feels good. Think of it as play, and find what makes you happy.

Imagine how different your life will look a month, 6 months, or a year from now if you invest the time in taking care of your needs starting TODAY.

Blessings, Love, & Light,

Christy xo

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