Are You Asking The Questions?

I used to feel like I didn’t have an intuition. Or at least, I wasn’t able to tap into it like other people somehow were.

I used to struggle with decisions and wonder why I couldn’t access that part of me that knew what she was supposed to do. I was desperate to experience that deep-seated knowing of what I was put on this earth for. I wanted that unspoken understanding within myself, like comrades nodding imperceptibly as they pass each other, aware of their common purpose.

I longed for something, I just didn’t know what. I felt disconnected from myself, and a little lost. I was living most of my life in an endless internal conversation of shoulds and have tos, unable to access the bigger picture.

And then I decided that the conversation needed to change. I decided to stop making statements, and instead ask more questions. It was an adjustment at first. Statements don’t require much thought…they’re habitual; unconscious. Questions force you to pause because they require stillness (especially if you want to hear the answers.)

It didn’t happen overnight, but the questions I started asking allowed me to take time to myself and make stillness a priority, which in turn allowed the space to open up for that knowing…my intuition to trickle back in.

Your intuition is like a muscle; it needs exercise to perform at its optimum level, and the more you use it, the stronger it will become.

So, I commit to the practice of using my intuition, and letting it guide me…and asking more questions.

Christy  xo

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Lessons In Leaving My Daughter

Motherhood has been my greatest teacher by far. Without choosing this role, I don’t think I would’ve ever developed the capacity to love so fiercely. I’m not sure I would’ve ever found the courage to stand up for another human being, and I’m fairly certain I never would’ve learned how to not take myself so seriously.

Being a mom has also taught me hundreds of lessons in my own limitations. It’s revealed the parts of me that operate from a place of fear rather than love, and has given me a reason to rise to the occasion, question those limitations, and continue to expand into the best version of myself.

This was never more clear to me than it was last night when I left my daughter at the airport. 

Karissa really wanted the opportunity to study abroad this year, and she did all the legwork (and paperwork) to make it a reality. Yesterday was her last day in the U.S for the next several months–she’s off to Paris for the semester.

When she was accepted into the study abroad program, and the possibility of her leaving dangled before me, there was all this excitement. I mean, what an amazing opportunity! And then, there was the fear.

Fear is such a mixed bag, because on the one hand, it heightens your awareness and encourages you to take precautions that can keep you alive. On the other hand, most fear isn’t based in reality, but rather some imaginary threat, and it actually keeps you from living.

That’s where I was stuck; in the fear that keeps you from living. I realized my fears all boiled down to me feeling a lack of control over the situation. She was going to be living on an entirely different continent! A world away from everything that she knew…a world away from me.

And then, in a moment of instant clarity, I realized that even though Karissa moving to a new country felt so much bigger and scarier than anything else, it was really a new opportunity to bear witness to the courageous, adventurous, self-assured woman she’s becoming, and to take pride in any part I had in that.

I guess one of the biggest things the Universe is trying to show me through this crazy journey of motherhood, is that it’s all a lesson in letting go.

Christy  xo

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This Is Something I’ve Been Afraid To Talk About

Over the years I’ve shared a few things on social media that could be considered slightly spiritual in nature, but for the most part, I’ve avoided the conversation of spirituality and religion altogether.

It’s been a conscious choice on my part, really. I’ve seen how incensed people can become behind the safety of their computers when someone threatens their beliefs by presenting a different one. In fact, I experienced it first hand last week when an acquaintance stirred up a shit storm in the comments of a post I made on my personal page about crying during the President’s farewell speech before she unfriended me.

I’ve always been aware of how my beliefs, thoughts, and ideas might be different from some of the people who follow me, and therefore could negatively impact my business if I expressed them publicly. So, I’ve tried to share who I am without getting too personal.

It occurred to me that if my theme for this year is to be in alignment in everything I do, sharing a watered down version of myself with the world because I’m afraid that a few people might not be able to handle it is completely counterproductive. It’s also uninspiring and disempowering.

So, I won’t hide anymore. I can’t do it.

Here’s what I’ve been afraid to tell you: I believe in God, but I’m not religious. I consider myself “practical woo.” I started studying Kabbalah almost 11 years ago, and it’s probably the spiritual belief that I feel most aligned with.

I’m also into the Law of Attraction and will read and listen to everything I can get my hands on from Abraham Hicks to A Course in Miracles. I’ve manifested a lot of things in my life–my family, my business, my home, money, travel. I know this stuff works, and I know it’s universal to everyone.

And just as a side note, I’m also a bleeding heart liberal.

There you have it; my big scary secret. I feel so much better now. I refuse to pretend to be anyone other than who I am; I refuse to shrink to fit someone else’s ideals. I don’t want a watered down life…I want a life that is rich, deep with meaning, and completely authentic.

Blessings, Love, & Light,

Christy

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