The Struggle Is Real

In the land of social media and newsletters, its customary to share all the fabulous things in one’s life…amazing treks around the globe, perfectly poised, brilliant children, and selfless acts of charity. I’m about to break tradition and tell you that I have been struggling.

For the last month or so, everything has just felt off, both personally and in my business, and I realized I’d fallen back into some old thought patterns. I had been questioning everything: Is this really what I’m meant to do?  I had been doubting myself: What makes you think you can pull any of this off?  I had been comparing myself to other people in the coaching world: Why is it so easy for her? 

With all the personal development I’ve done, all the therapy and coaching I’ve had, and all the growth I’ve experienced, I really thought I had mastered the mindset stuff. Like forever. But I’ve come to realize that it’s not like there’s a switch you can flip, and never experience doubt or question your abilities ever again. Believing in yourself and moving in the direction of the life you want to create are skills that you always have to work at mastering because most of us don’t default to “I’ve got this.” Following your dreams is not for the faint of heart, doll.

One of the things I tell my clients is that you can’t feel stuck if you’re taking action, and I decided that I should probably take my own advice. I don’t have to have everything for my whole life figured out. I’m doing what I feel called to do right now, and as long as I’m in alignment and taking action, the path will unfold as it’s supposed to for me. I don’t need to worry about a timetable, what comes next, or what anyone else is doing.

Can I get an amen?

Christy xo

The Best Laid Plans…

Good morning from Mexico!

Yep, I’m on vacation with the family and I’m up before they are to watch the sun peek out from behind the clouds over the sapphire blue Caribbean Sea. It’s astonishing and peaceful…I wish you could see and feel it.

Anyway, after last week’s post about my very personal struggle with body image over the years and how I’ve been working through it, I got a lot of support and stories from other women about their struggles with learning to love themselves. It’s been really beautiful, and I hold onto those stories when I’m having a difficult moment. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart for sharing who you are with me, and being vulnerable. We can do hard things.

I also got a lot of questions about how I eat and exercise as a means of self-care, without letting it become obsessive or stressful and fall into old patterns. I have some thoughts on these things that might help…and I fully intended to share them this week. I knew exactly what I wanted to say, and planned to write a post and schedule it to go out yesterday at the usual time.

But last week got very hectic with vacation prepping and packing. As a wife, and a mom, and a business owner, there’s never any shortage of things to do. And somehow, no matter what your role is outside of your family, you still have to take care of all the things. Or at least, you feel like you do.

So, last week, I spent a lot of time on very important things like trying to get caught up in my business so I wouldn’t have to take any work with me. And trying to decide whether to clean the house before we left, or light a match and start over when we got back. And trying not to get mad at my husband for waiting until the last possible second to pack his stuff (pretty sure he was holding out hope that I’d do it for him.) And forgiving myself over and over and over for not being perfect.

We can do hard things.

Christy xo

Ditch Your New Year’s Resolutions And Goals

calendar-picThis time of year used to be my favorite. Yeah, the holidays were a great time for sure, but I saw the impending new year as an opportunity to right all of my wrongs and become an entirely new person. A better person. Someone who put her nose to the grindstone, and FINALLY chiseled the perfect body, 10-x’d her business, and attained spiritual enlightenment in a mere twelve months. I might not have even been able to achieve these things before, but I always thought, this year would be different.

I’m exaggerating here, but not by much. I used to start each new year under the assumption that there was something wrong with me, when it should have been obvious that there was something wrong with with the resolutions I was making. In my mind, I wasn’t achieving my goals because I didn’t deserve to–I wasn’t working hard enough. But the truth is, my goals were based in a mentality of fear and lack. They weren’t empowering, and they didn’t feel good. In fact, they just stressed me out!

Last year, I realized something had to give. The thought of putting in a ridiculous amount of hours to explode my business, and suffering through another crazy diet and exercise regime literally made me nauseous. And then, in a moment of instant clarity (thank you, Universe), I thought, just focus on how you want to FEEL. That changed everything!

I wanted to feel happy and energetic. I didn’t want to be anxious and stressed out all the time…I wanted to be more creative, and do the things I loved in my business. I wanted to have more fun.

So I kicked my typical resolutions to the curb and spent my time doing more of the things that made me feel the way I wanted to feel. When I started to veer down the path of crazy again, I’d check in with myself. I’d ask myself, is this going to bring me tension, or ease? And you know what? It worked!

What about your resolutions? Could they use a do over…or do you need to ditch them altogether? Do you feel energized when you think about them or do they bring you down? What are the feelings you want achieving those goals to give you? Focus on those. What things can you do feel the way you want to feel?

I’d love to know what your goals are and if reading this made you rethink things at all. Hit me up in the comments and tell me all about it! Happy New Year!

Blessings, Love, and Light,

Christy xo

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